I remember (after scanning through Sir Barry’s blog and chancing upon an entry he wrote for his Lola) watching an episode of Rated K that featured this hopeless romantic who continues to stay in touch (and in love) with his deceased wife through his blog. As a confessed fellow hopeless romantic (err…) I feel for him and I empathize with him. His love for his wife is so strong and so great that it transcends the distance of heaven and earth, of life and death. Even after the death of his better half, Roy de la Cruz continues to talk to her, to rant about his bad day, to tell her of the happenings in their three children’s lives, to bring her good news, and to just simply say hello to her after a very long day. I have no way of knowing (or remembering from the episode) when his wife was welcomed into the Lord’s loving embrace, but I do know this: Roy started writing letters to her on April 11, 2008, yes, that long ago.
His first entry – the first of a never-ending series of virtual love letters to his wife – is the ultimate proof that love is limited by no boundaries, that even after a physical separation, the lovers can still connect with each other through other means. Indeed, love will always find a way.
Heaven sent, message sent
Roy de la Cruz is a real blogger. He keeps and maintains around 16 other blogs including Be Inspired Now!, Etsetera! Etsetera!, In My Mind’s Eye, Kapampangan Blog, Money OnLine, More Than Just Copy-Paste, Reflections, Roysville dot Com, Short Stories Blog, Single Fatherhood, Subukan Taya Ing Kapampangan, Sugar Coated World, The House Of Puroy, The Struggling Blogger, The Struggling Blogger dot com, and Travel To Angeles City.
With the experience and familiarity that he’s had with the new social media, blogs in particular, he found a way to stay connected with his wife. (Even though he, or any of us for that matter, is NOT entirely sure if his cyber messages actually reach his wife or if there’s even an internet connection in heaven.) The answer to this kind of longing and searching for ways to stay connected is the new social media. Because of the growing trends of the Internet, we are given that possibility and a lot more:
• We are able to re-connect and stay connected with our loved ones (even as dramatic and as profound as writing to a deceased loved one);
• Communication has been so much easier with just one click, as compared to having to wait in line for a five-minute use of a pay phone or having a writhing pain in your wrist due to writing extremely long messages to be sent via snail mail;
• Business transactions run more smoothly no matter the distance or the time difference of the business deals because doing business in real time is no longer a necessity;
• Delivering news from the other side of the world and researching about the latest developments in science and medicine have been easier and more practical for everyone;
• And a lot more possibilities that the new social media promise us.
As if she never left at all
Still, PROBABLY for Roy, the best advantage of the new social media is that he can write to his wife and tell her all about the day’s events as if she were still beside him – as if she never left at all. The communication exchange has been dented, yes, because one party can no longer answer back, but still, the message is still being sent to the intended receiver. No amount of noise or distraction can hinder this husband of ever sending all of his love to his late wife. Who knows? Maybe she can read all of those letters, maybe there is indeed Internet in heaven.
Sending his love up in the sky
Today the world sees a whole lot of promises that the new social media bring to humankind. Lives have been better and easier because of the hustle and bustle of these advantages. The future of the new social media holds a vast and endless string of possibilities for us, and it will for Roy, too. Everything happens for a reason. And maybe, the reason for the existence of the new social media is to help Roy cope with life through technology. The new social media will bring Roy’s love letters to his wife, signed, sealed and delivered, in heaven’s perfect time.